Not everyone catches an STI or has an unwanted pregnancy, but everyone will experience a break-up at some point. No matter what may have happened, you’ve invested time, energy and emotion in that relationship – you’ve shared experiences and grown together. It is natural to feel some sense of loss and to feel hurt and upset by the fact that it is over – even if moving on is a positive thing.
In an ideal world when a relationship changed or came to an end we would say our goodbyes with one final kiss and hug promising to remain friends before moving on and continuing with our lives.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t usually work out that way. When emotions are involved it is very hard to remain calm and behave rationally. The fact is when things end – they tend to end on a negative note – if they didn’t then perhaps they wouldn’t end at all.
Generally one person is left and the other does the leaving.
Usually this happens when one person no longer feels the same about the other anymore – or when one partner has behaved in a manner that is unforgivable and the other will no longer put up with it. Even when you do split up under a general consensus where both parties agree – it can still be hard to remain friends and watch as each other move on.
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© Going off the Rails 2012. Adapted from ‘Playing Downstairs’ by Jonny Hunt